Are You A Good Coach?

If you’ve ever walked out of a session and quietly wondered, “Am I a good coach?” You’re not alone. This question came up with one of my own clients during a deep, tearful, genuinely powerful session. And it stopped me cold. Because honestly? It’s one of the most important questions a coach can ask. The problem is that most of what’s out there to answer it is vague, fluffy, and not useful. So I went looking for something more tangible. What I came up with is a set of five honest indicators: three external and two internal that you can use right now to assess the quality of your coaching.

The 3 external indicators of good coaching

1. Your clients are having measurable results in real time

This is the clearest external signal. Good coaching produces observable, nameable change in a client’s actual life while they’re working with you. Not someday. Now.

That doesn’t mean it has to be dramatic; the client who finally has the conversation they’ve been avoiding for a year. The one hitting their protein goal for the first time. The coach who pitched to her for her first podcast. The entrepreneur who hit a revenue milestone. The person managing a health flare in weeks instead of months. These are real, concrete results. And a good coach can name one for every single current client.

2. They need you less as time goes on

A good coach builds capacity, not dependency. The goal is to give your clients a skill set they can use without you. So when a client who’s been with you for a year is more self-sufficient, trusting their own judgment, catching their own patterns before you even name them, that’s your coaching working. Transformation builds agency. It makes people more themselves, not more reliant on you.

3. Your clients love working with you (but know what this does and doesn’t mean)

This is the external indicator coaches lean on the most. And I want to be careful here, because I’m not dismissing it. When your clients tell you they love you, that you’re easy to talk to, that they’ve sent their friends to you, that’s real. It tells you the relationship is safe and that the conditions for good work exist.

But being a coach people love being around is not the same as being a coach who actually changes people.

Rapport is the container. It’s not the transformation itself. I want you to have both.

The 2 internal indicators that separate good coaches from great ones

4. You’re willing to have the hard conversations

A truly good coach is not in the business of making sessions feel good. Good coaching is in the business of serving the client. And those two things are not always the same.

One of the most honest signals of quality coaching is whether you’re willing to say what a client needs to hear, even when you know it might create friction.

You’re not hired to be someone’s friend, but to stand on the outside of the pool and watch. To hand over a life preserver when they need one. Not to jump in and drown with them.

5. You question your own coaching

This one, for me, is the separator. It’s what divides coaches who plateau from coaches who keep getting better over an entire career.

It’s not a punishing thing. It’s more like an unquenchable curiosity about your own work. You go back and listen to your sessions. You catch yourself filling the silence that didn’t need to be filled. Noticing when you gave advice instead of holding space. Getting curious about what was happening for you in that moment, without making excuses and without beating yourself up.

You’re having conversations with other coaches about the craft. Call someone you trust when a session didn’t go the way you wanted. And even when a session goes really well, it’s not about you; your mind is already on how to keep that momentum going for your client.

What ten years of coaching have taught me

I’ve been coaching for almost ten years. My commitment to keep getting better hasn’t gone away. The nuances I pick up in my own sessions are often where I get the greatest return on investment, more than any certification. The coaches I respect most in this industry are the ones who are still out there doing it, still stretching, still wondering. That’s mastery. That’s a high regard for the people you serve.

What a good coach actually looks like

So, am I a good coach? You answer that question by looking at both sides.

Externally, you see real, nameable things changing for your clients while they’re working with you. They’re growing in ways that don’t require you forever. And they genuinely love working with you. Internally, you’re willing to do the uncomfortable thing when the client needs it. And you never stop questioning your own craft.

That combination, external evidence matched with internal integrity, is what a good coach is. And if you listened to this episode and felt something, if there were moments where you thought “man,” or moments where you said “yes, that’s me,” you’re already closer to the answer than you’re giving yourself credit for.

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