Welcome to this week’s episode of the BDC, where we dive deep into topics that are crucial for business owners in their early stages. Today’s discussion is inspired by our recent framework builder lab, where we discovered a common issue that many entrepreneurs face: the feeling of being a fraud. This feeling doesn’t simply disappear over time, as it’s often accompanied by the constant pursuit of breaking through new barriers and achieving greater success.
In this episode, we’re excited to share a four-step process to help you transition from feeling like a fraud to embracing your expertise. We’ll also address what to do when you find yourself grappling with these doubts about your abilities.
During my early years in business, I distinctly remember feeling like I wasn’t knowledgeable enough or perfect behind the scenes. I worried that others would discover my limitations and weaknesses. However, what I’ve learned is that this is all part of the learning process. It’s akin to parenthood, where you don’t always have all the answers and need to seek guidance from others. As entrepreneurs, we can immerse ourselves in communities of like-minded individuals who can support us in overcoming these challenges.
Recently, one of my clients shared her experience with feeling like a fraud. After a series of successful client calls that had her on cloud nine, she suddenly questioned her capabilities. Doubts flooded her mind, making her question if she could truly change lives and deliver the results she promised. This is a common occurrence in the entrepreneurial journey. We experience highs and lows, doubts and certainties. Contrast is a natural part of the human experience, and it can serve as a guiding light, showing us what we truly desire.
Here is a simple practice to move away from fraud and towards expert feelings.
Step 1: Journaling Your Thoughts
In this step, we aim to externalize and analyze the thoughts swirling in our minds. It’s impossible to keep track of the thousands of thoughts we have each day, and when we’re feeling heavy emotions, it’s often because we’re dwelling on heavy thoughts. We must put those thoughts on paper and observe them from a distance. Label each thought as a “T” for thought or “F” for fact. This exercise empowers us to recognize the stories we create that may not align with reality.
Step 2: Distinguishing Facts from Assumptions
After journaling, go back to each line item and discern whether it’s a factual statement or just an assumption you’ve made about yourself or your situation. Our minds can conjure crazy, outlandish stories that are not based on facts. This distinction is particularly essential in business and client relationships. We don’t want to give meaning to something that doesn’t exist, as it could adversely impact how we move forward with our clients. We must remain neutral and not be swayed by our clients’ emotions or beliefs.
Step 3: Focusing on Your Wins
Once we have self-awareness and distance from our thoughts, we can shift our focus to our wins. Train your brain to recognize and celebrate the successes in your coaching practice or business. By actively acknowledging your wins, you elevate your energy and feelings, leading to a more positive perspective and a confidence boost. This change in mindset will influence your actions and decision-making.
Step 4: Co-creating with Feelings of Fraud
Feeling like a fraud is a natural human experience, and it’s essential to acknowledge and co-create with these emotions. While we want to reduce imposter syndrome’s impact, it’s crucial to recognize that these feelings will occasionally arise. The key is not to let them dictate our actions. Instead, we can push them to the back seat and focus on our expertise and the value we bring to our clients. The greatest experts acknowledge these feelings but don’t let them steer the course.
You Are Human
Remember that you’re only human, and it’s okay to experience moments of doubt and feeling like a fraud. The key is to utilize the four-step process consistently to regain your confidence and embrace your expertise. Experts believe with certainty that they are right where they need to be, making a profound impact on their clients’ lives. So go ahead and apply this quick five-minute practice regularly, and watch your perspective shift as you take confident strides forward.
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